What is Love? Part II

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast. It is not proud, it is not rude. It is not self seeking, it is not easily angered. It keeps no records of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. Love never fails.

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Love is friendship set on fire. Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. Love is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day. To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven. Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence. Love doesn't make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile. Love should be experienced and not just felt. Love frees us of all the weight and pain of life.

Sad to say, I'm lost in love. I don't think I have felt nor experienced romantic love towards anyone before. Familial love, yes - family & besties, you know who you are, I love you all endlessly! But romance is just a whole different thing and although I'm pushing adulthood, I still think that I'm not ready for it yet. Real mature, huh!

Maybe it's cuz I'm afraid. Of what? Things! Stuff! Of getting hurt or hurting others. Infatuations! Or you know what they say, "grass is greener on the other side". What if one finds someone better? Six billion, six hundred and sixty-three million, three hundred and ninety-nine thousand, five hundred and fifty six people in the world (According to the US Census Bureau at 11:50PM on April 24, 2008) - give and take a few. How do you find that ONE person? THE ONE to call your partner. THE ONE to have and to hold. THE ONE to be joined in Holy Matrimony with. THE ONE to walk the road of life together with. THE ONE to spend the rest of your life with. WAHRAO!

To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down.

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I've been dreaming of a true love's kiss;
Four lips are the only things that touch;
Just find who you love through true love's kiss ...

If only it was that easy.

Another thing I don't understand is the class, culture, nationality, racial, skin-color, and religious barriers. So what if a member of the royal family and a commoner are in love with each other? Or if a Westerner falls in love with an Asian? Or if a French loves a South Korean? Or if a white is devoted to a brown? Or if a Christian shares intimacy with a Buddhist? What right do we, the common society, have to criticize? Cupid's arrow has been struck, the couple has been blessed by Aphrodite, LOVE has found a way. Who are we to question their hard-earned and newfound passion for each other?

Promiscuity in Relationships

I've been listening to a rather interesting blogger, Dave, on youtube and one of the topics which made me put a lot of thought into was his insight on promiscuity and open relationships. If you're not familiar with the term, an open relationship is a relationship in which the couple agree to be together, but not exclusively. From what I know, an open relationship allows the couple to date, flirt, or possibly even hook up with other people. So I guess it's kinda like putting each other on hold to have an opportunity to look and see if there's someone better out there. But it's what happens at the end of the day that I'm keen to know. And I'm just gonna assume that you know what's promiscuity/promiscuous. If you don't then ... listen, you're in the age of the internet for cheese' sake; Google it or something. Anyway, here's what Dave said..

Q: Is there a difference between promiscuity and an open relationship?

A: Of course there is a difference. First of all if you're in an open relationship it doesn't necessarily mean that you're sleeping with other people. If you're in a closed relationship it doesn't necessarily mean that you're NOT sleeping with other people either. I'm sure there are plenty of promiscuous people in closed relationships that are cheating behind their partner's backs and I'm sure that there are lots of people in open relationships that aren't having a lot of sex. So yes, there is a difference.

I think what he said that if you're in an open relationship, it doesn't necessarily mean that you're sleeping with people, is the best point he made. Thus said, promiscuity does in fact mean that you're cheating on your partner.

Which made me wonder, can I be in more than one open relationship at the same time? Being non-exclusively attached to someone in an open relationship is like a way of saying "my partner and I are cheating on each other, so it's okay~". Weird. See now I'm confused. What are the perks of being in an open relationship when a couple isn't really a couple? Both have the "permission" to seek better partners and to leave the current one hanging there with no guarantees whatsoever. Why should it even be called a relationship if monogamy doesn't exist? Huhhh.. *scratches head* It sounds like it's just a sorry excuse to be in a so-called "relationship". So is there a difference between an open relationship and friends with benefits? Gosh why is it always all about sex? In my opinion, great & steady closed relationships can go perfectly well without sex, thank you very much!

Now ... is there anyone out there who still wants to date me?
*Rawwrrr!*

Darkness

Have you ever wondered .. if blind people see in their dreams? If yes, what do they dream of? What do they see? And most of all, do they dream in colours?

A survey from a 52 year-old who lost her sight from diabetes said that she does see in her dreams, and that they are in colours most of the time.

How about those who were blind since birth? Do they have dreams? Do they have nightmares? What do they see in their dreams? Is it like the white-noise we get from the TV when the reception's bad? Or do they see rainbow colours slurring around like they're on drugs? I'm so curious to know. Anyone?

Sex Could Kill You

Do you know what the human body goes through when you have sex?

Pupils dilate, arteries constrict, core temperature rises, heart races, blood pressure skyrockets, respiration becomes rapid and shallow, the brain fires bursts of electrical impulses from nowhere to nowhere and secretions spit out of every gland, and the muscles tense and spasm like you’re lifting three times your body weight.

It’s violent, it’s ugly, and it’s messy, and if God hadn’t made it unbelievably fun .. the human race would have died out eons ago.